On Moving On.

When you lose someone - be it in terms of friendships or relationships - it is important to remember to be kind. I'll be the first one to admit that this isn't always easy.

yellow cable knit cardigan from Choies

It is hard not to get angry when the friends that you once loved so much start posting things on their social media networks that sound like they might be meant for you, but you don't want to jump the gun and get angry because they might not be meant for you, after all.

It is hard not to get affected by things that your ex says as if you weren't affected by the breakup yourself. It hurts to see these people and pretend like nothing happened when your heart still secretly aches for their company with every fibre of your being.

My solution for these things so far has been to turn a blind eye. Unfollow them on Twitter and Instagram. Unfriend them on Facebook. Stop reading their blogs. Ignore their existence.

I did these things not because I stopped caring about them or loving them, but because it hurt me to see them getting chummy and sweet with other people the way they used to be chummy and sweet with me. This sounds selfish, but it was a means to help me move on and get used to life without them - if even for a short time.

In other unfollowing cases, it merely had to do with spoilers, ask.fm, bad grammar, shockingly explicit language, or spammy tweets. But, to be honest: just because I don't follow you on Twitter doesn't mean I hate you, don't like you or am annoyed by you. Come on, guys. It's just Twitter. GTFU. Lol.

On that note, I really appreciate the people who approach me and ask me why I unfollowed them instead of jumping to conclusions and stabbing me in the back. Some of the time the unfollowing isn't even my fault, but merely has to do with a Twitter glitch. So, you know, if something like that bothers you, ask about it first.

Sigh. Don't you miss when social media networks didn't exist and life was so much simpler? Lol.

Anyway, what do you think of my new cardigan? :) I originally ordered this cardigan for our trip to Baguio, but it didn't arrive on time. :( I am happy to announce that it is still the perfect companion for me on rainy days here in Manila and when I'm hanging out in the mall, though. I'm pretty bad with the cold, so cover-ups like these are a complete must for me!

See more of Choies' latest clothes and shoes here! :)