There are things worse than ghosting.

Ah. Ghosting. So many people hate it and yet so many people do it. I've already been ghosted twice in my life. But while it was horrible the very first time it happened, the second time was actually totally bearable. You see, by the time I was ghosted the second time, I had already experienced things so much worse than ghosting. In fact, at this point, I'd take ghosting over the rest of the shit that I've been through any day. :p

If you think about it, the mere term itself should already show you how basic of a level ghosting actually is. See, ghosts by definition are apparitions of dead people. They're dead. They no longer exist. You might see them from time to time in your dreams or you might get a whiff of them and remember them every now and then; but generally speaking, they are no longer a part of your life. The thing is: there are a lot of bad things that happen in the dating world that people simply don't acknowledge as much as ghosting.

What about those people who are no longer a part of your life and then suddenly start viewing your Instagram stories without even following you? They don't just do this once. They do it multiple times, so that you notice, get bothered by it, sometimes even to the point where you end up starting a conversation with them about why they're viewing your stories without following you.

And what about those people who come back into your life as if nothing happened in the first place? They strike up a casual conversation as if they didn't break your heart into pieces and stomp on them months or even years ago. 

And what about those people who suddenly start talking to you again because they noticed you lost weight and are looking fab and living your best life after they left, or the ones who suddenly start talking to you again just because they need something from you?

And the worst kind: the people who message you in the middle of the night, asking if you're up for sex as if you're not lying in bed with a face mask on and watching Netflix like the (not-so-)responsible adult that you've become? Hey, just because you didn't evolve doesn't mean that I didn't.

I don't mean to make parinig to all y'all's, but it is what it is. If you're one of my marupok sister friends reading this, then I hope that you one day get out of that cycle and find someone who will truly appreciate you for who you are and treat you right.

On the other hand, if you're one of the losers doing any of the things that I mentioned above, please go back to being a ghost. Stay 'dead', please. Thank you. :)